How to Meet Girls Online
So, what is the best way to meet girls online?
If you want to get straight to the point, it’s online dating apps. They are generally better for this than other websites or niche communities, they are pretty affordable (although not free), and they have large dating pools of single girls.
But they are not the only option. Let’s talk about the alternatives.
Step 1. Choosing the right platform
Where to meet girls online? There are 4 main types of websites you can meet them on:
- Dating websites — traditional platforms where single people search for a relationship
- Social media — Instagram, Facebook, and so on
- Communities — Discord, subreddits aligned with your interests, etc
- Niche sites — not only niche dating sites but also religious, cultural websites, and so on
No matter which type of platform you choose, each one has its own vibe, crowd, and way of connecting people. So before jumping in, it’s worth taking a closer look at how these platforms actually work—and what kind of experience you can expect from each.
Types of platforms
№1 Dating sites as the main way to date singles:
- SofiaDate
- SakuraDate
- LatiDate
So, what are the advantages of the famous dating platforms?
- Online dating sites have lots of users—there are more than 366 million dating app users worldwide, so even if these sites aren’t as popular as Facebook or Instagram, they still have millions of people.
- These sites are perfect for you if you’re looking for a young girlfriend to date—in the United States, for example, most dating app users are in their 20s (18-29).
- The biggest advantage of these platforms is that they’re full of single users, and most of them are interested in building a relationship.
But at the same time, these websites have their flaws.
- According to some sources, such relationships are less stable, but it’s not the biggest problem.
- The biggest problem is that the quality of the profiles on these sites is usually quite low. Fake accounts, bots, scammers; big dating apps are usually full of them.
№2 Now, social media, and by social media we mean Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and probably Reddit.
The advantages are clear:
- On these platforms, you can meet girls online for free, while most dating websites today are not free to use.
- These are also very large websites—Facebook, for example, has dozens of billions of monthly visits, no other website can get even close to that number.
So if these sites are free and they have millions of women, they must be perfect for finding a girlfriend, right?
Well, no. The main problem with these websites is that they were not designed for dating. They are full of women who are in a relationship, full of people who might be single but don’t want to start a relationship on Instagram or Facebook, full of fake accounts and empty profiles. The only advantage is the size, but it’s not the size of the dating pool because only a few people on Facebook or Twitter/X.com are actually interested in it.
What about online communities?
There are other places where you can meet a girlfriend. For example, Discord servers—there are servers for making new friends, and they even work for some people, but typically, it’s not those servers where people find love. What we’re talking about here is a situation where you chat with a girl on a server themed around a topic that is interesting to both of you, you start talking every single day, then you have video sessions, meet in person, and, well, you’ve got the idea.
What are the advantages of online communities?
- Discord is free
- There are video calls (not all dating sites have them)
- You can meet a like-minded person with the same hobbies or interests, which is definitely a good sign for your relationships
But the flaws are obvious, too:
It’s actually one flaw: although it’s possible to find a girlfriend in online communities, such cases are extremely rare even today, when Discord is one of the most popular websites in the United States with 244,500,000 users.
Niche sites and their pros and cons
When it comes to niche religious or cultural websites, the situation is similar to the one with Discord—it’s definitely possible to find a like-minded person there, that’s the point of these sites. But it’s very unlikely, mostly because these sites are not popular at all, and the size of the “dating pool” is very small there.
There are also niche and interest-based dating platforms. Here’s a breakdown on these sites:
| What “niches” are there? | There are lots of niche dating sites: websites with foreign brides, dating sites for people with the same interests and beliefs, and so on. For example, if you are interested in dating Ukrainian women, you won’t date them on Tinder or Reddit—you would need a specialized dating app where you can meet thousands of Ukrainian women. |
| What are the advantages? | These sites have all the advantages Discord and “traditional” dating sites have, from video calls to verified profiles. Niche dating apps also have a very high reply rate. The reply rate on most dating apps, for example, is around 15-20%, and on niche apps, it’s often higher than 60%! |
| Any flaws? | The main problem is that these sites are usually not free to use, and they might cost you from $100 to $200 per month |
Step 2. Creating a great profile
No matter which site you choose, you need a good profile to attract other people. Now, when you know how to meet girls online, we’ll explain how to create such a profile.
Profile photo tips
- Always upload a photo. Empty profiles don’t work; no one wants to chat with a person without a photo.
- No group photos. They don’t work, they are suspicious, and they are only slightly better than having no photo at all.
- Smile! Smiling photos leave a positive impression; many women are tired of all those angry and overly serious looks. You’re here to have fun, right?
Bio and interests
We would say that the main recommendation here is similar to the one about the profile photo: fill out all the basic information. No one wants to reply to an empty profile. This also applies to that “your ideal partner” part of your profile—if you give a detailed explanation, your chances will improve. What qualities would you like to see in a partner? Is it more about physical characteristics or about the sense of humor? Highlight what you need.
It’s also important to stick to a positive tone of your profile, and by that, we mean a simple thing: Just don’t be too negative. Yes, it’s great if you can be clear about your boundaries and deal breakers in your profile bio (like “I’m not interested in…”) but don’t make your profile too negative. Mention what you don’t need, yes, but don’t build your profile about those don’ts and nos.
And please, don’t skip the “your ideal partner” part. Talk about your interests—interests can be a hookup for someone who doesn’t know how to start their message to you.
Step 3. Starting a conversation
- Analyze the profile of a woman.
- Ask an open-ended question about something you saw in her profile, maybe its her pet, her favorite book or movie, her last trip, and so on.
- Be positive, use humour.
- Ask for her opinion or tell your opinion about something you’ve seen in her profile
Step 4. Building connection and trust
At first, it may seem that it’s impossible to build trust with someone you’ve never met in person. But it’s actually not true—these 3 tips will help you build real connection and trust with your online partner.
- Be transparent, don’t try to play games.
- If you make promises, always keep them.
- Be respectful and don’t rush—men always rush on dating sites, but hey, it’s not necessary. You can talk about sex a bit later, not during your first conversation.
Now, the next important step: moving to offline relationships.
Step 5. Moving from online to offline
- Make sure your online connection is strong enough. If it’s too early for a real-life date, take your time.
- Choose a public place. That’s how you’ll feel safer and that’s how you’ll help your girlfriend feel safer, too.
- Be realistic. We live in a world where Photoshop exists and where people sometimes lie to strangers on dating websites.
- Dress comfortably—if you feel confident and comfortable, the chances are very high your partner will feel the same.
- Have fun! Don’t take things personally, it’s just a date, and you’re here to have fun.
Final tips for success
Remember that you should choose only the best dating sites with verified users (think of something like wouldliketomeet.me with ID verification and a professional customer support team). It’s also important to buy a premium subscription even if it’s not required because premium accounts always get the best matches and many more views than free accounts.
If you want to increase your chances, your profile should be perfect. If you don’t have nice and high-quality pictures of yourself, go and take some. Ask a professional photographer and pay him—you’ll get a few dozen high-quality photos that will work on any dating website.
And the last one: Don’t waste your time. Online dating is really cool, but if you want to build a real relationship, ask her on a real date.
